Introduction

I am currently writing a book and expanding my social platforms to explain the forms of toxic parenting that is being normalized and passed down to children to repeat. Parenting and being a parent are not the same thing. Anyone can create a child, feed them, clothe them, give them a place to sleep, and call it “being a parent.” But parenting is something deeper. It is the emotional, mental, and developmental work that shapes who a child becomes. Parenting is a connection, patience, self-awareness, accountability, and intentional guidance. It is the daily responsibility of showing up for a child in ways that go far beyond meeting basic needs.

And the truth is uncomfortable but necessary to say. 

A lot of people are not good at parenting. 

A lot of people should not be parents in the first place. 

This book exists because too many children grow up in homes where love is confused with control, protection is confused with ownership, and authority is used as an excuse for emotional negligence. Toxic Parenting is my attempt to break down how these harmful patterns form, why they continue, and how parents can begin to unlearn them before the damage passes to another generation.

The importance of this book is simple. 

Children grow into adults who carry their childhood with them. Their confidence, fears, communication skills, emotional triggers, relationship habits, and ability to love all trace back to how they were parented. When adults refuse to confront their harmful behaviors, the cycle repeats—quietly, but powerfully.

In this book, I cover a wide range of parenting concerns, starting from infancy and continuing through the stage where children become young adults navigating life on their own. I speak from different perspectives, real experiences, and the truths many people are too afraid to say aloud. My goal is to shame but to also bring awareness, accountability, and understanding. If even one parent adjusts their mindset after reading this, then one child gets a better chance at a healthier life.

That is why this book matters. 

Because changing parenting changes generations.